We have all found ourselves at the bottom at some point in time during our lives. An array of circumstances and plain bad luck lead us to this path of nowhere. This is what separates the winners from the losers. Winners find a way to climb out the hole, whether or not they dug it for themselves. The losers, well, you never find them. They are trapped under a mountain of self pity and despair. Do you want to win? Read on. If not, feel free to go to your hole and play the role of the ostrich.
I’ve seen the bottom more times than I’d like to share. Every time it seems as if I should die, but somehow I find a way to live. I’m a member of the self development community, so my methods may be variations of what’s already out there. But I’m telling you, no matter what the method; patience and dedicated focus WILL propel you from your slump. I’ve been addicted to various substances, caught a felony, and couldn’t find a decent wage job, whatever you name it. I’m not Donald Trump, but the skills I’ve learned in my personal hell at least allow me to keep food in the fridge and the lights on.
- How did I get here? This is the best first question you can ask yourself. Find out what led to your downfall. Did you mess up somewhere? Bad circumstances? Wrong place, wrong time? Everybody has some kind of story as to why they are where they are. To heal, you have to accept the situation 100%, no matter if it was your doing or not. Accepting it helps the mind reframe the situation. Instead of no hope, the mind has a purpose.
- What shall I do now? Do not feel sorry for yourself! I can’t stress that enough. This is your chance to change history. From where you are, you need to create a plan. In fact, create multiple plans just in case circumstance is not finished with you. You’re at your lowest point now. What do you have to lose? When I was convicted years ago, I ran through the routine of applying for every and any job, only to be denied entry. I’m not much of a business man, but I had to be because working 15-hour weeks at $7 per hour was not going to help my cause. After careful planning and bold maneuvering I am a D-list actor (working my way up the ranks) and tinkering with the Internet (learning how to make money writing, blogging, anything).
- A change will come. Change comes to those that want it. Change comes to the one who would rather sit in his hole than come out living the same life again. Similar to a mid life crisis, this is a change to restate life on your terms. Maybe last time you had the expectations of others upon you and eventually broke. This time, set YOUR expectations and see how far that gets you. Just change, but change for the better. Don’t change your drug of choice from weed to coke; but change from an everyday habit to an every other day habit, then eventually a non habit.
The conclusion of the matter is that the world is not over. Everybody falls, and some of them prosper after the fact. I want you to be that guy or gal that prospers from change. Your story is what they call a testimony and worthy to be shared, because many people are stuck with no idea of what’s going on with themselves. Be the person to lead a revolution of change. You often see the missing links in your life when you inspect your inner self (your motives, desires, etc.). I believe in you.